If she doesn't like
that, ask if it would be okay to go dutch. Where
both of you pay half of everything. In my mind several
questions arise when a woman wants to pay for the first date.
Maybe she doesn't find you attractive and is bored and needs
something to do. Maybe she just wants to be friends. While
there is nothing wrong with these things, if you are wanting
to per sue a relationship and you see these smoke signals, I
would suggest that if you are wanting a long term
relationship, then you go elsewhere. There is no need for a
broken heart.
On the other hand, if she seems to eager to
allow you to pay for
everything, I would question her motives. Maybe she
is looking for a sugar daddy to take care of her. If you have
been with her for several months and she hasn't put out, but
she still wants to take you for everything you are worth, she
is probably using you. No matter how perky her breasts are,
how firm her ass is, it won't matter unless you get a little.
Unless of course, you don't mind paying to see her with her
clothes on. That is basically what you are doing.
It is important that
you be a gentleman in the proper situations.
Meeting the parents doesn't have to be a bad thing. Just keep
these few pointers in mind. When talking to her dad, talk
about politics, cars, or other manly things. Appear to him to
be intelligent. If you are talking to her mom, tell her how
nice the house looks, how good the meal was that she cooked.
These sorts of things will earn you brownie points with her
parents.
Take every chance you
can to compliment your woman. Tell her how you love
her hair today, how nice she smells, now nice her shoes are.
Women like to be told that you like certain things about them
that they have done. If all else fails, talk to her about her
eyes. Women love hearing how beautiful their eyes are. On the
other hand, you can easily over do it. Sometimes a woman might
see a guy who is too nice as someone who wants to get into
their pants so bad that they will do anything. Don't do this.
It makes you look hard up. Instead, sprinkle your gentleman
kindness around a little. Don't make her think you are so hard
up for sex, that you would give her the moon if she asked for
it.
Here are some things that women may look
for in a man who is being to 'gentleman like'.
Trying too hard to be
romantic. She can tell when you are working so hard
at getting her in the mood that you sweat blood from your
forehead. This will serve you no purpose. If the mood is set,
things will flow. Working too hard at it will ensure you never
score. Going to extremes for her. When you buy that 400 dollar
painting she is ranting or raving about, or you spend all day
long waxing her car with your tongue.... She can see that you
are over doing it. If you do things like this, you put
yourself in the position of being used.
Showing off your money. A woman can see this coming a mile
away. You spend 100 dollars on a stuffed puddle
that you think looks like garbage, but she thinks is adorable.
Spend what you can. There is no reason to go over board.
Always asking for permission. You aren't a kid, and don't
treat yourself like one. She isn't your mom, and you don't
need another mother. It will get old after awhile if you ask
for permission all the time. It will make you look like a
helpless person who always needs attended to. Taking the blame
for everything. You can't possibly be at fault for every
single problem that happens. So why take the blame for
everything? Most women can see right through this. If you are
unlucky and she is a bitch, she will try to make you believe
everything is your fault after awhile.
Being a gentleman is
always good, but don't allow yourself to become the
fool. Do what is right to win over your babe, but don't go to
extremes. This might just be a death wish in the end.
