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Every man has
heard all of his life.Women from day one of our lives
have complained that he don't listen or pay attention to
what they are saying. As in all things, there is a
little truth in everything. Men and women both don't
listen to the other properly at times. There can be a
lot of factors involved with this. Maybe you had a hard
day at work, didn't get enough sleep and feel grumpy, or
you just don't feel like listening. Most people have
problems listening because listening requires effort.
Yes that's right, we are lazy. We don't want to put
forth the effort to listen. Listening requires some
brain activity because you have to digest what is being
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Another aspect of
it is that we like to talk more than we like to
listen. We like the attention from someone listening to us
talk. We all like to know that what we are saying is important
to someone else. So much so, that at times we may neglect to
hear what the other person is saying. I can remember one time
me and a girlfriend were driving down the road. We were going
out to dinner and I was hungry as hell. She jabbered
constantly for abut half of the way to the restaurant. After
awhile I just shook my head and pretended I was listening,
while all I could think about was what I was going to eat at
the restaurant.
One of the things I
have realized that when it comes to listening: If
you actually spend some time listening to what the other
person has to say, in the long run it takes less time. Because
they will get a sense that you aren't listening and they will
repeat it over and over again. Women are bad at this. I think
that when a woman senses a man is listening to her, it means
to her that he is understanding, caring, and interested in
what she has to say. I know that some times this maybe a hard
task if your woman has diarrhea of the mouth, but look on the
bright side. Look at her when she is talking to you, when you
get board take a glimpse of her breasts. If you are a breast
man like me, that will reinforce why you are listening to her
in the first place.
There are times that a
good stimulating conversation is very satisfying.
Take advantage of this. The more you learn about one another,
the better your relationship will be. Hey, if she thinks you
are a sincere caring man, you might get lucky more often. That
can't hurt can it? You can improve your listening skills by
doing several things. You can focus on what is being said and
not what your response to what is being said. Simply put,
listen to what she is saying and think about what you will say
after she is finished. If you are like me and your mind runs a
mile a minute, this will help a lot. This will help you
because you won't loose focus. Try asking questions. So many
times in a conversation we tend to allow ourselves to over
look what we don't understand. Ask questions if you don't know
what she is talking about. Of course if the conversation is
about her having clots during her period, you don't have to
ask questions about that.
All in all, use your
ears. That is what they are there for. Too many
times we don't understand that the most valuable aspect of our
lives is each other.
